How Reaction vs. Response can change your trading

Suddenly, a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on her. I wondered if this was the cockroach’s response to all the glory that was spoken about it! She started screaming out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started doing jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got cranky to what was happening. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach to another lady in the group. Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough,he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.


Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos. It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.

I realized even in Traders case then , it is not the shouting of my father or my boss that disturbs me, but its my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.


It’s not the market volatility or loss in market disturbs me o, but my inability to plan my trade, inability to visualize my trade which disturbs me


More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem that hurts me.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life. I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always intellectual and comes with lot of Practice and developing trust on your skills .


  1. vikaskvikas said:

    Dear Sir.

    Thanks a lot for such a wonderful article.U give valuable insight through your write ups required for a trader in the market.

    WRT Article……Yes this could help not only in trading but also in a routine life where so many noise Disturb us.

    God bless you.


    February 22, 2016
  2. Thnk Bimesh ji
    Well said and summarised with clear difference of reaction and response. The attitude will definitely change the trading response to volatility in the market..

    February 20, 2016
  3. RAJMOHAN said:




    February 20, 2016
  4. tekkiesuresh said:

    Superb.This is true of all of life.

    February 20, 2016
  5. Bramesh said:

    My Understating is Retailers should avoid trading in Options..

    February 19, 2016
  6. vidya said:

    a lesson to be learnt

    February 19, 2016
  7. Ram Nene said:


    February 19, 2016
  8. vaibhav said:

    Sorry nifty

    February 19, 2016
  9. vaibhav said:

    Sir plz give the North option call for intraday or positional with stop loss

    February 19, 2016
  10. vaibhav said:


    February 19, 2016
  11. M S D said:

    Excellent Sir

    February 19, 2016
  12. Anuj Pundir said:

    Very Good Article

    February 19, 2016
  13. Shailesh said:

    Nice …

    February 19, 2016
  14. zen said:

    Good one

    February 19, 2016

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